Communication

When discussed in class the different types of communication and such it was very interesting to find out that there were so many different ways to communicate and the negative ways. When we got into basic communication principles it talked about the basics and what is key to it. I too agree that you cannot not communicate, because if you don't communicate then what type of relationship are you going to have with your spouse. Things will just keep going unresolved. I very much agree that the message sent by one person is often not what is recieved by the other person. For instance, I was with a friend eating out one night and we were sitting there talking and eating when a couple of guys came in and sat down to eat as well. So, my friend took it upon herself to start looking at them and flirting hoping I think to get them to notice, and when she got one to look at her she just smiled and kept eye contact. In doing, so this one guy just kept staring and doing the same back. Well at the end of our meal it just so happens that we got done at the same time, and as we were walking out they approached us. My friend got so excited and was all ready to start a conversation when, the guy came up and started talking to ME!! I felt so bad!!! If the guy wanted to talk to me he should have been flirting with me, right? I just don't understand guys. It is true that communication failures rest with both people. If one chooses not to communicate with the other or one tells one one thing and they are to tell another, and they don't then all fails. It may turn into a big fight and unresolved issues. The big thing to remember with communication is that it involves Content and Process. The way something is said is more important than what is said. This may very well be the most important thing to remember when focusing on communication, because the way something is said is much more important then what is said, because it could be your body language and facial expressions don't match what you say.