Single life

I really liked our discussion on single life and all the aspects around it. Like many of the others said in the blog, I have really no desire to get married anytime soon. I still have about 2 years left of school, and then student teaching. No where in there would I be able to handle planning or even getting married. I am perfectly happy being who I am and not losing my identity or self to change for someone. Now, when the time comes that it does happen, a relationship, then at that point in time I will really know who I am and what I stand for, and that I won't change. A lot of my cousins though, on my moms side, have gotten married rather young, in their early 20's, and are perfectly happy and have kids. To me though I think they knew who they were and what they wanted and the fact that they dated the person for years. I do think that a lot of people are getting married a lot older now today, compared to years ago. I think that a lot of that has to do with finding a stable life and ground to stand on, whether that be financially, health, job, mental, love for someone else, etc. to be able to be in a realtionship. Those who are waiting might want to make sure all of that is in check, before getting into a realtionship and having these come crashing down while in it. I want to wait a while at least to 25 or so, before I get married for those reasons I mentioned above, but also because of what happened to my brother. He was engaged to a women he had dated for three years, engaged to for one, and had set a date for this summer and had everything planned out, and then she dropped a bomb on all of us and totally blind sighted us. She told my brother she didn't want to marry him and that she had feelings for someone else. All the while before this she started saying she wasn't sure if she was ready, but like the person my brother was, he told her he would wait until she was ready because he loved her that much. So, needless to say it really put a damper on how I look at people and who to date, and trust went out the window. It also made me want to wait and in a sense made me not want to get married for the longest time. So, I hope that I can only learn from that experience and what I learned in class, and make sure I know who I am and what I want first before I take that big step.