Family Science 280 Group 5

Finals week

2009-05-04T10:18:00.000-07:00

Wow.... 4 finals in 24 hours. I CAN'T wait till I'm done. Thankfully I only have one on friday :)
My car is FULLLLLLL. You never realize how much stuff you have until you have to pack it all into a Suburban. So anyway. BY FAR this was my favorite class!! I enjoyed it a lot and wish I could take more classes like it.

The final

2009-05-04T08:09:00.000-07:00

This class has turned out to be very interesting. I really enjoyed the teacher and felt he presented the information very well. I was never bored or felt that this class didn't apply to me. He gave many different situations in which what we were learning could be applied and gave a lot of examples to help illustrate the points he was presenting.

As for the final, I am a bit nervous about the essays. I feel these are among the hardest we've had all year and are very broad. It will be interesting to see how this goes!

Final

2009-05-03T20:10:00.001-07:00

I am currently studying for the final tomorrow and i am very nervous. I hope that i can do well on it to get an A in the class. Over all what we have covered for this test is pretty easy and i think it shouldn'tbe too bad. Although i though that for the last test and I did not do so well. I am not going to go study some more and hopefull do well on this final!!!

...end of class

2009-05-03T18:48:00.001-07:00

I have really enjoyed this family science class due to the relaxed environment which allowed all students to become involved in the classroom. Our last class this week was a good experience because we were put in the situation of being the professional. Watching the clip from Fisher really allowed me to get a differnet perspective on what being a therapist would be like. It takes knowledge and expereince to know what to say in certain situations with patients or clients. I thought that the lectures really gave a lot of insite on how families and individual grow and develope. I will take this knowledge and build off of it further in my future classes. I am a Family Science major and this class reassured me that this major is the right choice for me.

This Class....

2009-05-03T18:30:00.000-07:00

I am excited for our final test in this class. But at the same time, really sad. I have enjoyed this class. The Prof was amazing and really interesting. In the beginning I wasn't really looking forward to this class, but that quickly changed. I understand more now about Families and how to approach problem. I wish everyone luck on this final.

Working with Families

2009-05-03T12:22:00.000-07:00

This was a really interesting class discussion. It helped me to see things in a different way with how I answer with my responses now. The transitional responses to this subject were forms that I hear quite often when I am at work or even talking with others. When I myself begin teaching I would hope that when I do come into contact with these responses I use them to the best of my ability and use them correctly. When I do start teaching and am asked one of these responses and something sad or devistating happens to one of my students or their families, I hope that I can use the terms correctly and in a way that dosen't come off horrible. For instance with personal experience I will try not to use "It happened to me", or "I know how you feel" because each experience is far different and so is the person's emotions. As for interpersonal support they are all very useful tools. Listening, Understanding, Support, and Help, are all very useful tools to help anyone in a given situations. If a studnet or parent comes to me with something I will most definitly try to use these for support. For myself I have used them for my own friends and family. With my friends I do this when they are talking to me about guys or breakups, etc. I am very focused and do lend advice and really hear and understand what they are saying. As for support I am usually the one that shows the most empathy and support to people, as everyone tells me. For myself I hope to do the same with families that come to me wtih questions or concerns and I am able to answer them and give them these types of support to help them get through their situation(s).

Class Overview

2009-05-01T14:09:00.000-07:00

Overall, I learned so much from this class. Even though I may not have the best grade I could have learning about how process is so much more important than content was really neat. I never would have thought about that concept if it wouldnt have been from this class. I think one of the most interesting things that we learned about in class was about parenting. I think that parenting conceptss apply to most of the students in the class, and even if they arnt parents or dont plan on it, they were grown up by a parent or guardian. I think this would have to be one of my favorite classes because of the great discussions that we would have in class. I learned a lot from it and I would reccomend it to someone who was interested in learning about different familiy dynamics.

Class over the semester

2009-05-01T11:05:00.001-07:00

I really enjoyed the class this semester. I learned alot of things I didn't realize about how families work. Alot of the times people fight, they focus on the context instead of the process. When I grow up and have a family, I will carry the things we learned in class with me.

Speaker on Tuesday

2009-04-30T20:57:00.000-07:00

I really enjoyed the speaker on Tuesday. He was really interesting and it was really helpful actually. I learned a lot more about dealing with people who are run aways or what you should do with them. He showed pictures that really grossed me out and i would not care to see them again but it got his point across. I liked how he showed us not to judge someone who is 'homeless' because it may or may not really be there fault. It reminded me of when i saw a homeless man standing on the road by walmart when i went the other night. I always feel bad for them.

Final Exam

2009-04-30T17:54:00.000-07:00

Im hoping the final exam is like all the other tests. The essay questions don't look too bad and I thought the information we learned this last section was interesting so it should be easier to remember.

traditional responses

2009-04-30T17:43:00.000-07:00

Today in class we talked about the different types of responses. I feel like you use each type of response but it just depends on what situation you are in because that allows you to decide which form of response to choose. When I think about it I feel like I use the advice-giving and reassurance the most. Sometimes I use the personal experience but it usually depends what type of situation the person I am talking to is in.

Guest Speaker

2009-04-30T11:40:00.000-07:00

While I did find him interesting was I the only one who was a little scared? I was in the first row and I felt like he was yelling at me. The information was interesting however, even if I didn't necassarily enjoy all of the pictures he showed us.

Guest Speaker

2009-04-30T10:21:00.000-07:00

I have seen him twice now and he still did an awesome job! He came and talked to my special ed class last semester. He has so much energy. I like the fact he isnt into scare tactics but into the truth. I never realized that homelessness was such a problem here in Lincoln Ne. I just figured it would be bigger problem in California or somewhere bigger than here. All those crazy stories about people on drugs, the homelessness, and the stds is all a little shocking. It definately gives you something to think about.

Guest Speaker

2009-04-30T10:13:00.000-07:00

The speaker that came to talk on tuesday was quite interesting. It was an interesting way to find out about Meth and to see what it does to people. The pictures really put a different spin on it and show it in a whole new light. Learning about meth bugs was quite interesting too. The way that it makes people that paranoid to think that they really do have bugs crawling in their skin. Also, finding out about how homeless people live and what they have too do to survive is also a sad story. The way the homeless have to build makeshift houses and live out in freezing temperatures is hard to fathom as well. I thought that he did a really good job with the presentation and had a lot of energy and was lots of fun. I had a family member that had a problem with drugs and seeing what it did to him was really scary. The effects from the drugs that he showed on the screen were like the ones my family member went through. Another thing talked about was the reasons why girls run more frequently then boys, and it was quite disturbing knowing some of the reasons. Learning that women run for the reasons they do is sad and I can only hope that the girls that run get out of their situations and have a better life.

Guest Speaker

2009-04-30T10:08:00.000-07:00

Wow.... he had so much energy!!! He was so all over the place but knew exactly what to present and how to present it. He made me really want to join the program to help the homeless. I'm really glad there are people like him in the world. They make the world a much better place.

The last week

2009-04-30T09:15:00.000-07:00

Im really not too worried about the final in this class. I think that it will be pretty easy. I did a lot better on my paper than I thought I would. I wasnt quite sure what they were looking for, but I guess I must have did it correctly!

speaker

2009-04-29T18:55:00.000-07:00

I really liked the speaker that came on Tuesday. I felt that it was very interesting and that I learned a lot. It was kind of gross to see all the pictures of what meth can do to you but I also feel that those pictures will help people see what a bad choice it is to use any type of drug. Also I like when we have guest speakers because I think that it mixes things up and makes us more informed about all the different things around us.

Guest Speaker

2009-04-28T20:09:00.000-07:00

I was really glad that the guest speaker showed up today. I was almost ready to leave class, but then he walked in the door. I know that this may sound weird but I really liked when he showed the different pictures of the meth users and of the "homes" that the homeless people around Lincoln had built under bridges. I feel that this is a topic that many times people don't think about. And when he showed the meth pictures, it was really scary to see what it can do to you but I feel like many times that is a way to make kids and adults think about what may happen if they start doing drugs. Knowing that the prevalence of these issues occur here in Lincoln is also very important. I would say the the guest speaker really did open my eyes to the problems that Lincoln faces as well. Homelessness is found everywhere not just in big cities.

speaker

2009-04-28T18:00:00.000-07:00

It was really good to see the speaker in class today because it shows just what some people are doing in our community for drug, particularly meth, prevention and awareness. I enjoyed this speaker because he was very energetic and could really relate to students with what he was talking about. I know that in many high schools, kids are not getting enough drug education, or effective education. I can see how this particular speaker can get student's attention and respect. I think it is important for more people like him to get involved in helping needy children and teens. I am interested in working with situations similar to this for my future career and listening today really got me excited and interested in making a difference.

Speaker

2009-04-28T13:13:00.000-07:00

I absolutely loved the speaker we had in class today. The information he presented was very sad and gross but he made it so interesting with his high energy. I could not believe some of the stories he told. The one with the 19 year old with 4 kids really stands out to me and the pictures he showed of the before and after were incredibly eye opening. His presentation proved that lower income, high risk children really are at a disadvantage and it makes me grateful to have the life that I have

Adoption

2009-04-28T12:09:00.000-07:00

So this past week has been very interesting for me. I received a letter from my biological father. I also was shown a letter dated back in 1990, telling my mother that she put me up for adoption.( From my biological father). So I really don't know what to think. I am really happy that my mother didn't and I am very upset at the man in question. He told me in his 4 page letter that he would like to meet me/ but only if I wanted to. And I really don't know how to feel. This is a man who for 18 said or sent nothing to me.

Adoption

2009-04-28T10:31:00.001-07:00

It seems that most people who are adopted due tend to want to find out about their birth parents. i had a friend in high school who was the opposite. She didn't want to know because she felt that giving up a child isn't really the best thing. She was happy with the parents she had and felt that was enough. I think personally it was more that she didn't want her adoptive parents to feel hurt over interest in birth parents

Adoption

2009-04-24T11:55:00.000-07:00

Yesterday right after class, I went back to my room and watched Smart Guy. The episode was about how one of the characters found out they were adopted and wanted to find his birth mom. It was weird since 30 min earlier we were talking about how kids that are adopted tend to want to find out about their birth parents.

working poor? poor working?

2009-04-23T11:10:00.000-07:00

THe whole Working Poor and Poor Working people thing confuses me. What's the difference? Why does it matter that there is a difference? I dunno... I was just confused...

Economy

2009-04-23T10:33:00.000-07:00

The main way I've noticed the effect of the economy on my family is probably through my brother. He lived in California and was struggling to get by. What his salary was compared to his cost of living and everything else, he could barely make it. He had to borrow money from me and my parents. My parents were also feeling this burden and told him that he was going to have to start paying his own car insurance and cell phone soon. He began applying to other places and despite the tough job market was able to get a job making double what he does now in Houston. The cost of living is lower and he makes more money. He's doing very well now. However, about a month of working at his new job they began making lay-offs. He hasn't been laid off yet and has had nothing but confidence instilled from his boss but still the threat is there which is tough.

Domestic Violence

2009-04-23T10:07:00.000-07:00

Last Thursday we talked about domestic violence. Finding out that men are more frequently abused by women, but women are frequently injured more was a shock. I did not know that men were more frequently abused. It does make you wonder what it is that is happening in these households that constitutes abuse to the men. It just seems weird that it is a more frequent thing to men then women. Another area discussed was the factors affecting the impact: Type, Frequency, Duration, and the relationship of the perpetrator. When you think of duration it shows how long something has been going on, and goes to say how much it impacted the child and if the child will be the same someday. That is the thing that worries me when I hear or know of someone who has been abused. Is that child's life going to be hard and is he/she going to abuse their own children. The type seems to be hard either way. Either verbal or physical. Yes physically it can put you in the hospital and kill you, but verbally it can do the same. It does just as much damage if not more. It can get to the person in so many ways. The relationship is also very difficult, being if you trust them it is much harder to get over it and go on. That would be the one thing that would be hardest for me if it happened to someone I knew. Now frequency is always so hard to see either way with verbal or physical. It is difficult to see what the frequency has done to someone you love. I only hope that if it does happen to someone I know that I have the strength to hold back and not physically harm the person myself. Sexual assult was the other topic that was disscussed. I never knew that the numbers were what they were. It is sad to see that so many rapes go unreported and that all of these high school girls face these issues. It is scary to see what the image and media portray, and if it has to do with why this happens, or what is going on at home as well. What is the most frightening is the large number of rapes and that they are commited by an intimate partner. Now what does that say?

The Economy

2009-04-23T09:48:00.000-07:00

Like many others in the class my family has been affected by this falling economy as well. My uncle is a business owner. His business builds automotive body shop machines like tire changers and other things like that. Well this economy is so terrible that they are having problems staying a float. My uncle is actually considering filling for bancruptcy for the company because they just arent making the money to pay the bills. That sucks to know. And since the business isnt doing well my aunt and uncle are doing well either. They are used to living a rather blessed life and now its hard for them to make ends meet and they are living off of credit cards.

Quizzes

2009-04-22T20:38:00.001-07:00

I'm actually a little worried about the quizzes. Tests and quizzes make me nervous and for some reason I seem to have a hard time taking them no matter what class I take. I hope they go well!!!

The Economy

2009-04-22T19:51:00.000-07:00

Like discussed in class, my family has also been impacted by the downfall of the economy. Although I dont think that my direct family has been impacted I know that my Grandpa has been extremly impacted. He had a ton of money invested in the stock market, and all of it has disappeared into thin air. I think its really hard for him, but he is still living a good life. He goes on vacations every once in a while and even though there is a big loss in the economy he still lives life to the fullest. I think I can really learn from his example and learn to be satisfied in any circumstance that I find myself in, because if the market keeps falling, things will most likely only get worse.

Economy

2009-04-22T18:05:00.000-07:00

Like many others in here as well in class my family has been affected by this new down fall of economy that we have today. There is only My mother and I and for the most part I would say we are safe finacally. But because of how the stock market is doing, we lost a lot of money that was put in a E fund from the state. ( Like a normal stock but because if its educational purpose, its tax deductible) So now, because of that I am going to have to take out more loads that I was planning to.

economy

2009-04-22T09:04:00.000-07:00

The economy recently affected my family. My grandparents who live in Colorado and I only see about once a year were planning on staying a my house for a week for Easter. My uncle who lives with them decided to stay at home because his job has been laying a lot of people off and he did not want to risk taking a few days of and losing his job. The night before Easter we got a call from my uncle saying he has fallen down the stairs and broken his leg. My grandparents had to immediately leave, drive back to Colorado because my uncle was having surgery, and missed spending Easter with my family. Now my uncle is unable to work because he does a lot of lifting at his job and now his job is really at risk. He also has many heart problems and the added stress of having to think how he is going to get a job with no college education after he is fired has not been good for him.

class today

2009-04-21T20:20:00.001-07:00

In class today we talked about the effects of the economy and how people spend or save their money. I am lucky enough to have a family that has not been effect by the economy and I am extremely grateful for that. Next there are 4 meanings of money: status, security, enjoyment, and control. I can see all of those traits in myself, family, and friends. I feel that I hold all 4 characteristics, but it just depends on what is happening in my life and that decides what trait I show. Like after working all summer I feel enjoyment and status because I can now treat myself to something that I want really bad (enjoyment) and I feel really good and happy and in a way powerful (status) because I saved all summer and I have something to show for it. Therefore, I think that it depends on the situation and that is how we decide how we feel about the meaning of money.

Quiz

2009-04-21T19:59:00.000-07:00

I just took the two quizzes and I thought they were pretty simple if you read the book and went to class. The grading thing said i got a 10 out of 10 but i'm not sure if that was just like completing it and he is going back to grade it or if it really graded it. I am also excited that the only quiz we will have is another easy 5 point one because i was pretty nervous for the quizzes at the beginning of the semester and I did not do very good on the real in class quiz we did have. I also thought what we talked about today was very interesting, of course this whole semester has been eye openning for me. The thing that i thought used a lot of thinking was "Working Poor" i first didn't understand the difference between them but now that you said what each of them mean it makes a lot of sense. My mom works at a Housing Agency and i worked for her for a while and i said a lot of the the "poor that are working." All of them were suppose to have jobs and a source of income yet not all of them did.

economy

2009-04-21T12:44:00.000-07:00

Today many people are affected by the economy. Some families people have lost their jobs or lost some retirement money. It is common for families to go through some struggle because of the economy these days. Recently I have been trying to get a job for summer and I have had no luck. I've applied at eight different places and none of them are hiring.

The Interview

2009-04-16T11:12:00.000-07:00

So I don't know if anyone else found asking almost strangers very private questions uncomfortable, but I sure did. I really liked doing it don't get me wrong but some of the question I asked got mixed responses. I really liked this assignment and I really think I got alot out of it. I felt bad though because at the end of the interview the parents were not to pleased with one another.

OMG!

2009-04-16T10:58:00.000-07:00

how is it possible to go from getting 65/100 to getting a 100/100?!?!?!?!?! That's what happened with my Sociology test! We had a test yesterday and I just looked to see if the grades were up and sure enough i got a 100!!! I don't know how that's possible. I barely studied. It just seemed to be my lucky day!! :D

dress up

2009-04-16T10:53:00.000-07:00

Last week in class we discussed how young children express themselves through dress up and play. I found it entertaining to discuss how even boys dress up as women to play on different roles and be someone else. I remember my older brother and I would dress up in my tutus and dance around when we were very young. It was a fun way for us to bond and become more expressive with one another. We also talked about how dress up and play are forms of communication and that definitely applied to me as a young child. I would always put on makeup and dresses which would "transform" me into a rock star, and I would proceed to sing and dance around my room. I think play helped develop my personality as I explored different ways to look and act. I believe all children should be able to express themselves through dress up and play because it is a great way to have fun and experiment with yourself. I know that once I become a mother, I will have plenty of fun dress up clothes for my kids to enjoy! :)

Parenting Adolescents

2009-04-16T10:38:00.000-07:00

In class on Thursday we talked about adolescents and how their behavior is different as they grow up. As an adolescent you are growing up and wanting to experience new things and experiement as well. Some things mentioned were Ego Strength and under that was the loyalty to friends and power or wanting to belong. Those are two major things that you do see a lot of especially now-a-days with kids just wanting their peers to like them or to be popular and some will do whatever it takes in order to be loyal and show their friends just how much they will do for them. It can be very scary raising an adolescent and knowing that that is the case and wondering what they might do just to please their peers or friends. Another was the desire for independence. Now this is a big thing as a teenager, wanting to do things on your own and find out what happens or this and that. I know as a teenager I wanted to independent when I wanted to be and when I was I didn' want my friends let alone my parents or siblings telling me what to do or how to act. That is one key thing when raising teens, you need to let them be independent, explore, make mistakes, live, and have fun. If you don't again it comes around to tuesdays class about how strong is to strong. The last thing we talked about was teen pregnancy. I do believe that teen pregnancy is on the rise and it can be prevented, with parenting, talking to your child, school programs, movies or pamplets on pregnancy to show teens what will happen with your life and how it will change, etc. The media is definetly a strong influence on sexuality. There are kids at the daycare I work at that know words to songs and see things on t.v. that they talk about that they shouldn't even know it or know what that means. I think that if media dosen't start to become more censored, then teens will start having more sex then just within the first year. Media is very appealing to teens, and what they see they think they have to have or do. I think that movies portray only sometimes the good of pregnancy. It seems to be more black, then black and white. I fear that if media and they way parents talk to their children about sex, etc. we will have a big problem in the future.

Family Interview and Pregnancy

2009-04-16T10:28:00.000-07:00

That family interview paper was harder than I expected. The length was no problem at all. I am just not sure I wrote about what he wanted to hear. I sort of just flipped the book and wrote about anything that applied to what the family I interviewed had said about the questions asked.
Also, I was a little shocked that teen pregnancy is down considering the fact that MTV and commericals are everywhere supporting sex. Its amazing that the pregnancy rate is down. The promotions, and commericals that sex sells. I was also a little confused as to why the rate only considered teen births and that abortions and miscarriages were put into a different category. If a teen had an abortion why is it not put into the teen PREGNANCY category.

last Thursday

2009-04-16T09:19:00.000-07:00

On Thursday we talked about teen pregnancy and I was amazed at how high it was. But yet I was also happy that the percentages of teen pregnancy has gone down. I think that media influences teens' choices. Channels like MTV promote sexual activity and movies like Juno stated that it's okay for a teen to have a baby. In real life it's completely different. In Juno they made raising the baby and finding parents for it even easier. Also her parents understood and stood behind her 100%. In real life the parents don't always support the girl's actions or ideas.

Family Interview Paper

2009-04-15T21:27:00.001-07:00

I would also have to say that the paper was difficult to write. It wasn't hard to fill the length requirement, but I am not sure if I wrote about what he was looking for. I found it hard to figure out exactly what he was looking for. I agree that it would have been nice to have an example or at least a bit more direction on the formatting of the paper. I'm very nervous to see what grade I receive.

Family Interview Paper

2009-04-15T17:15:00.000-07:00

I had trouble with the family interview paper. I was not quite sure what he was looking for. I know he said he did not want to give us examples because then we would copy those, but I think it would have helped a lot. I just tried to use as many of the terms and topics that we discuss in class as I could. Hopefully I did well on it.

Family Interview

2009-04-15T16:28:00.001-07:00

I also found the family interview paper to be difficult. When looking at the rubric is stated that we needed to barely describe the family structure, but I found it hard to describe the function with barely describing the structure of the family I interviewed. The family that I did interview consisted of a single parent mom and two children, one having Down syndrome. I knew the familiy through my mom, and I have babysat her kids before. There were many things that I found out about the family funtion that I didn't know about them before. Even though the paper was hard to write, and I might not have done it correctly, it was cool to see that no matter who you have in your family, things can always work out if you really want them to.

Family Interview

2009-04-15T11:44:00.000-07:00

I found writing the family interview very difficult to do. I wasn't sure of exactly what needed to be in it. I think i did mine pretty wrong but I hope that it was okay. I used a lot of my previous notes that we took in class when we talked about divorce to help me write it. I also used my book but there was not a whole lot in the book that talked about divorce. I talked a lot about the roles thefamily then took on and how it affected the daughter in the long run. After listening to the interview I had, I never realized all of the things that happened with divorce. I have never personally been through it and I hope I never do now that I can see the affects it has on people. I asked all of the questions that he left us on the rubric so i hope i did it right. I really can't afford to get another bad grade. I am a little worred after getting the grade back on the second test. I didn't think i did that bad but I guess I did.

Paper

2009-04-14T19:21:00.000-07:00

I hope I did good on the paper we had to hand in today. It was interesting learning about another family and how they interact with each other. During my interview, the couple I was interviewing tied in a lot of the stuff we learned in class with how their family structure is.

Play

2009-04-09T11:22:00.000-07:00

I thought last classes lecture was interesting. I enjoyed the idea of play, and what kids dress up in. Im not necessarily sure that what children play to be is an insight into what they want to become as they grow older. I think it might give you an idea as to what there interests may be, but also what they have been exposed to growing up, such as playing that they are a teacher. Overall its just interesting to see what kids come up with!

Death in the Family

2009-04-09T11:08:00.000-07:00

A member of my family died this week and I had to make a difficult decision. I really wanted to be with my family in this time of crisis, but I knew I would miss a few of my classes if I went out of town. In the end I decided to go to the funeral and be with my family. Family is the most important thing in this world and missing a few classes is worth being there for my family in this difficult time.

preference vs principle

2009-04-09T10:58:00.000-07:00

Last class the Prof was talking about preference vs principle and it really got me thinking. Now, even though I am 18 my mother still tell me what she think I should wear and what to not. I kinda want her to come here and sit in on a class or two. Not to discredit her in any way but some times it seems likes she like to be in control... all the time about everything.

Families with young children

2009-04-09T10:03:00.000-07:00

In class on tuesday we talked about how we should encourage children to do their own thing and give them appropriate praise. When giving the child choices and allowing them to do what they want with those choices makes them feel like they are the quote un quote parent like in play. I feel that the more choices that they are given within reason that you set for them, the child will learn to make good choices and want to know what is going on. Another thing mentioned was whether it was a matter of preference or principal. Don't be so rigid and not allowing of their preferences, so don't use principal. If the child doesn't like the ones made that you set aside be willing in some way to negotiate and compromise with the child. Now the other thing that we talked about was giving praise to the child where needed. I work at a daycare and day after day I give praise to those children when they have done something. If a child comes up to me and says "hey I just drew a picture of a dinosaur" I will say nice job it is so good. Or if the children just start picking up the toys and balls in the gym without being asked I will do the same. If when I babysit the children help me clean up after supper I too give them praise for helping. You can tell that the child appreciates being appreciated and loves the praise. I also agree that children need love and affection. If the child has none then what does the child have but negative around them. I hope to also use the five steps to guide behavior also with my family and see if I could try it with the kids at daycare also, to see if it will help with some of the behaviors. I hope to be the authoritative parent and give praise and affection day after day to my child. I feel that if I do give praise and affection and love and all that goes with this type of parenting I will have a very happy life and family.

Parenting

2009-04-09T09:54:00.000-07:00

When we were discussing parenting in class and he was talking about preference vs principle it made me think of my parent's and the way they parented my brothers and I. My mom has has to tell my younger brother's teachers over and over to "pick their battles" with him, which I associated with what we talked about in class. She realizes that there are things that just don't matter and when approached end up causing more of an issue than what was originally going on.

Families with Young Children

2009-04-09T07:27:00.000-07:00

In class on tuesday when we were talking about play, I found it very interesting. Many people watch children play and try to figure out what role they may grow up to be like. In the summer I babysat two girls at the ages of five and eight. When we would play "house" or something like that I found it interesting that the story always went the way the older girl wanted it to go. The younger one never had a say in whether or not she wanted the story line to go a different way. I think learning about the different parenting styles and learning about families with young children will be really interesting.

Parenting

2009-04-08T18:05:00.000-07:00

First of all, I have been checking for my grade on the last test and its not up and and i'm getting very nervous waiting to see what I got. Now for my blog and I am going to talk about parenting that we talked about tuesday in class. I thought i was interesting to learn about how you should teach children. I thought i remembered my parents just telling me what not to do or how to do it but now that i think about it i think they did actually "show" me what i should do. I do know that if i did something bad I did get lectured which you said in class isn't something that will helpo children learn but i think in my case it did help me because i didn't want to get 'lectured' again so i didn't do it again. I always thought it was scary to be lectured so i think that that worked for but if i was a parent i dont' think i would use that just because i don't want to scare my kids out of doing something i would rather teach them.

authoritative

2009-04-08T16:59:00.000-07:00

In Tuesday we talked about how kids respond better to praise versus negative responses. I agree with this since I have seen it better hand. I have noticed with both kids that I baby sit and my younger siblings that it is easier to get them to do something when I either ask nicely or praise them about something that they just did. For example it is easier to keep the kids from fighting if I compliment them about something. Like telling them thanks for helping me put away supper or thanks for helping me pick up the living room. I plan on using this technique with my kids...it seems life would be easier that way.

Families with young children

2009-04-07T21:14:00.000-07:00

I loved our topic for class today. It was funny to hear some of the different things people did when they were little and it took me back down memory lane. I never really thought about how you dress up or what you play with when you are little can kind of define who you will be when you are older, but it is so true. I ALWAYS played teacher or played something where I was in charge and now here I am in college majoring in Early Childhood Education. After today's class I will definitely take more interest and watch how kids play or what they play with to learn more about them.

Childhood

2009-04-07T12:19:00.000-07:00

It was nice today to talk about the old days of our childhood and think about how we would play with other kids. Its good to think about what games we would play or how we would role play with others. When I was younger I would always play with Barbies and try to act like I was an adult. Those were the good old days of when none of us had the stresses of homework and tests.

Unplanned Pregnancy = Bad Marriage

2009-04-06T12:01:00.000-07:00

In one of our classes Mr. Hollist was listing off bad reasons to get married and listed an unplanned pregnancy as one of them. While I agree that sometimes this might be a bad idea I don't think it is in all situations. Maybe the marriage was all ready inevitable but the baby just brought it up earlier. I think there are some people out there that if they are committed enough to a relationship to have sex with their partner in the first place they were probably planning on marrying their partner anyway. if you are just having casual sex or are having sex to early in the relationship getting married as a result of the baby might be a bad idea but therre are many instances when I think that a baby can lead to a happy marriage, despite the popular view.

Test 2 conti.

2009-04-02T10:36:00.000-07:00

Ok. So Last week I wrote about the test and me being stressed about it.. I think I it might have been justified. Me and a couple of my friends study for this test for about 2 hours, and I still have questions. My Problems lie with the specifies about Married and inter relationship problems. I got that there is 6 steps for problem but the 4 and 6 step.... is the same. So because of that.. I think I did really bad on the essay.

Test on Tuesday

2009-04-02T10:28:00.000-07:00

The test on Tuesday was a little more difficult then I had thought it would be. I have yet to miss a class and i figured by going to class and reading the assignments i wouldbe okay. Apparently i was a little wrong. I studied for the test yet when I was reading over my notes it all sounded very familiar like I knew it all. I was please with the essay question we received though. I thought talking about the most important part of conflict was rather simple. I thought the most important part was resolving it because that is what Dr. Hollist say and in class when we did the chart the happiest couple was the one who resolved everything. Overall i think the test was okay but there were a couple questions that i thought were difficult.

last class

2009-04-02T10:24:00.000-07:00

On Tuesday we talked about how in the couple the one with the "I don't care attitude" usually gets their way. That is because the one who doesn't mind what they are doing usually has less intrest in the couple's status. Therefore the one who cares more will do anything and everything to keep their spouce happy. Although I think that is unfair, I do think that it is true.

test

2009-04-02T10:17:00.000-07:00

so the test on tuesday..... I didn't find it too difficult. Anyone else? I hope the grades get posted soon. There were a few questions that confused me but other than those few I found the test to be very straightforward. What did everyone else think?

Family Planning and Parenthood

2009-04-02T10:10:00.000-07:00

The next class session on family planning and parenthood should be a good lesson for those of us who are wanting to start a family someday. It talked about the importance of family planning and what factors you need to take in when planning it. It talked about timing being important and the effect on a family. For instance when teenage girls or girls who are older are sexually active but they do not want a child, they will be careful in the choices and ways to prevent that from happening. It also stated that people often want to finish their education or get settled in their careers before they decide to start planning and having a family. Now for me that will be what my planning for a family will be centered around for the most part. I want to finish my schooling and then get settled in my career and get off to a good start and then have a steady relationship, get married and all that and then start planning for a family. It also talked about oral contraceptives and how many women take it to avoid pregnancy when they are not quite ready to start a family. There are so many different choices for women these days for contraceptives to take and it is amazing that sometimes they can fail and you can still end up pregnant. It seems to be a win/lose situation now a days with everything. When I finally decide to start having a family I only hope that me and my future spouse are prepared and in a situation that we are ready in all areas needed for the well being of the child.

Family Planning and Parenthood

2009-04-02T08:59:00.000-07:00

I think that the next section parents and children will be very interesting. I did like learning about the concepts of being single and dating, but I feel like this will also be helpful to learn. Someday I would like to start a family of my own and I feel like this section will give me a heads up as to what I will be getting into. When reading for class today I thought that the different reason people have children is really neat. Some like to make life more complete, to avoid boredom, or simply to start a family. For me I know that nearly all the members in my family had children to start a family. I feel like this section will be beneficial and entertaining.

Test

2009-04-01T21:49:00.000-07:00

I thought the test was kind of hard. I definitely wasn't as prepared for this test as I was for the last test. I hope I did okay on it. I was very happy that we got the 4th essay question. I thought this wasn't as tricky as the rest of the essay questions. I hope the final isn't to bad, I am sure it is going to be here sooner than we all think!!

Test

2009-04-01T16:22:00.000-07:00

The test was not as bad as I thought it was going to be. I was very happy that we got essay question #4. After looking at the syllabus, it looks like we are going to begin talking about having children and families with children. I think this will be a very interesting topic.

Test

2009-03-31T14:04:00.001-07:00

I thought the test was very hard. I had difficulty with some of the multiple choice questions. I was glad that we got the #4 essay question because I knew the most about that topic. I felt that I did good on the essay tho.

Kids having kids

2009-03-30T22:00:00.000-07:00

I was wondering what everyone thought of the 12 year old and the 14 year old having a baby. After finding out that the father was not the 12 year old boy, he said he was devastated. I just don't quite understand how at that age you could really understand fully about what it would be like to have this happen. The parents of the girl even admitted that they allowed them to have sleep overs and everything because she was using birth control. I'm not sure why but I completely disagree with that. It seems wrong to allow kids at that age to do this. Maybe it is because I come from a really strict family. Any thoughts?

Test

2009-03-29T20:28:00.000-07:00

So I've been having some trouble on question #1 for the essays. If anyone could give me any information on this question that would be great. Even if you just point me in the right direction so I can look up the answer. Anything would help!

I think the rest of the information for this next test is actually quite interesting!

Thanks

Test 2

2009-03-26T11:34:00.000-07:00

I am kind of worried about this test. I think the last one was easier then this one coming up. Does anymore have any ideas about the essay questions?

Power

2009-03-26T11:32:00.000-07:00

I think there definitely needs to be shared power in relationships. You can't always depend on one person to decide everything. And if there's children involved it might be better for one of the parents to decide over the other. It's good to have one person always take initiative but you need to share with your spouse or partner.

public intimacy

2009-03-26T11:29:00.000-07:00

As we discussed before spring break some couple have trouble with showing affection to their partners and this does not mean a lack of love. When I was growing up my parents had no problem showing eachother affection, kissing everyday before and after work, plus they were constantly touching eachother; holding hand, arms around waist...etc. I had a good neighbor friend and often went to her house. There, her parents were never on the same couch, didn't touch or kiss or show any affection to one another. As a child I assumed this did not mean love and was very sad for my nieghbor because I thought that her parents did not get along. Now that I am older I understand that everyone shows their love and affection in different ways. My friends have relationships and the same goes for them, some of those couples will be "all over eachother", while others feel uncomfortable around people. I know that affection is not always the best way to measure love.

Power in Relationships

2009-03-26T10:11:00.000-07:00

It never occurred to me that the person with the most power in the relationship is the one with the least investment in it but it makes total sense. If you are the person who doesn't care you will do whatever you feel like doing because it's of no consequence to you whether the relationship ends or not. If you are the one with the least power that means you are highly invested in making the relationship work so you let te other person get away with things that in other relationships they probably couldn't. It's very sad and makes me wonder how many of the relationships I am in or the relationships I see are like this where one person cares and the other doesn't so the one who doesn't gets rewarded. It's something to look out for that I never considered before.

one with lesser intrests wins

2009-03-26T08:57:00.000-07:00

In class on Tuesday we talked about how we a couple is deciding what to do the spouce with the least amount of intrest usually gets to decide what they do for the night. Like if they are deciding where to go eat or what to do for the night the one who doesn't care gets to decide. That reminds me of my relationship. When my boyfriend asked me what I wanted to eat that night and I just said I don't care or it doesn't matter to me. Usually he keeps asking me what I want to eat and after a few I don't cares or something like that I name something that sounds good and that is what we get to eat.

Sexual Intimacy

2009-03-26T08:09:00.000-07:00

Before we went to spring break we talked about sexual intimacy. The thing that really was interesting to me was the top five sexual issues for married couples. I see this every time I am around my aunt and uncle. You can tell very much so that my aunt wants affection from my uncle but is very dissatisfied with the love and affection that she does get. She is always fishing for a kiss or a hug or even a few nice words, and we all see it everyday and it just seems to get worse over time. In my family things are not secret unless you want them to be so as sad as it is I know some of my families intimacy problems. I guess that's what you call a close family. Anyway, I know that my aunt stuggles to find any satisfying feelings in her sex life and has an even harder time getting my uncle to talk about their sex life and having him do anything different. We all see everyday that my uncle is very reluctant to be affectionate at all with my aunt and it crushes us more and more everyday to see that she struggles to feel loved and get any of the help she needs at home. I can only hope to learn from my aunt and hope that it never happens to me.

Power

2009-03-25T19:31:00.000-07:00

In class the other day when we were talking about the person who has the least amount of intrest has the most power I found it to be really interesting. This is so true when it comes to relationships. When I was in a relationship, I was always the one that wasn't near as invested as my boyfriend was. He would do anything to keep the relationship together. Although it was sweet sometimes he went over the top and it was clear that I had the most power but I didnt really realize it. By knowing this principle I can use it in my future relationship, or at least know that it exists. I think by knowing this principle of least intrest that people can use it in their relationships and know that it really is true and does have power over the other more invested person.

Differences in Power

2009-03-25T19:09:00.001-07:00

One of the most interesting things to me that was mentioned in class, was the idea that in a realtionship, the person with the most power is the one that is least invested. This actually makes a lot of sense, because if you think about if you are the one more invested in the relationship, you are willing to do or say anything to stay in the relationship. I've actually seen many examples of relationships that are like this, and at the time I wondered to myself why they stayed with each other when you could totally tell the person who was more invested in it. Its interesting to think back on these relationships now with this idea.

Power

2009-03-25T11:34:00.000-07:00

I thought out class talk on the power in realtionships was very interesting. I never would have thought that the person who cares the least really has the most power in that situation. Now that he explained it to us that makes a lot of sense. I never realized there were so many different types of seeing who has the power. We learned about 6 of them and they all are very different. have witnessed many of these types of power control in my life and now I can understand why these influences lead to who has the most power over the other person in that type of situation. I think it helped that he showed us a movie and had us witness it through that as well. That will help us in other situation to tell the difference between them.

Power in marriages

2009-03-24T19:51:00.000-07:00

I found the 6 different influences for power to be very interesting and helpful. After going through each of those in class I can definitely look at different couples or friends in my life and see why a certain person has more power in the relationship. By knowing these, I will also be able to allow particular people in my life to take power or stand up and take power myself in different situations.

Fighting

2009-03-24T15:45:00.000-07:00

Todays lecture made alot of sense when I started to think about the fights I've had with people. I saw how the different kinds of influences were used in the fight to gain the power. Everyone uses the influences sometime in their life when they fight with others. I learned I need to not get right into the fight yelling at the other person. I need to calmly talk to the person right away.

blog ckoe

2009-03-13T09:24:00.000-07:00

I thought our last class was very interesting. Seeing the statistics about sexual intimacy and relationships was interesting. I liked how marriage, divorce, and singles were broken down. I was kind of surprised that the singles category was the lowest because in our society it seems as if people are having casual sex all of the time. Also, I couldn't believe the information about the four fifth graders in LPS that were pregnant. That baffled me, especially since I came from a very small mennonite town. However, I think it has shock value no matter what kind of school you attended.

Spring Break

2009-03-12T11:49:00.000-07:00

I really dont have anything to say about our class today. My mind is in a blank. But, I am getting really excited about going to Denver for Spring Break.

Lucky in Marriage

2009-03-12T11:31:00.000-07:00

I think I will be lucky in my marriage (whenever that may be). My parents have been together for 20 some years and they are still madly in love and have never had any serious problems. I kind of feel like there is a correlation between happily married parents and divorced parents and how their children will grow up and have relationships. Like for me, I'm not really afraid of a divorce because if my parents are happy I can be happy. But for people who's parents divorce I feel like those children will have a problem loving and trusting someone. Might just be me. But that's what I think.

communication

2009-03-12T10:26:00.000-07:00

On Tuesday we talked about communication. After class I started looking at all the ways that my family and I, my friends and I, and my boyfriend and I communicate. I realized that in my family we mostly just say what we feel while with my friends it is a mixture of talking and gestures. And with my boyfriend it is talking with a few gestures mixed in. Mostly, when I am mad, I speak with gestures because it shows how I am really feeling.

Communication

2009-03-12T09:46:00.000-07:00

When discussed in class the different types of communication and such it was very interesting to find out that there were so many different ways to communicate and the negative ways. When we got into basic communication principles it talked about the basics and what is key to it. I too agree that you cannot not communicate, because if you don't communicate then what type of relationship are you going to have with your spouse. Things will just keep going unresolved. I very much agree that the message sent by one person is often not what is recieved by the other person. For instance, I was with a friend eating out one night and we were sitting there talking and eating when a couple of guys came in and sat down to eat as well. So, my friend took it upon herself to start looking at them and flirting hoping I think to get them to notice, and when she got one to look at her she just smiled and kept eye contact. In doing, so this one guy just kept staring and doing the same back. Well at the end of our meal it just so happens that we got done at the same time, and as we were walking out they approached us. My friend got so excited and was all ready to start a conversation when, the guy came up and started talking to ME!! I felt so bad!!! If the guy wanted to talk to me he should have been flirting with me, right? I just don't understand guys. It is true that communication failures rest with both people. If one chooses not to communicate with the other or one tells one one thing and they are to tell another, and they don't then all fails. It may turn into a big fight and unresolved issues. The big thing to remember with communication is that it involves Content and Process. The way something is said is more important than what is said. This may very well be the most important thing to remember when focusing on communication, because the way something is said is much more important then what is said, because it could be your body language and facial expressions don't match what you say.

Nonverbal communication

2009-03-11T19:13:00.000-07:00

Nonverbal communication speaks louder than words. When it comes to someones body language and what they have to say, their nonverbals come across louder. I generally pay more attention to what there nonverbals are saying, and get confused when their words are not matching. This can be a very frustrating thing, and have dealt with this any many relationships that dont make sense to me.

Communication

2009-03-11T19:10:00.000-07:00

I thought out class discussion on communication was very interesting. I learned a lot more about the way people communicaton. Mainly the difference between girls and guys. Now that i have learned that i think back on certian situations in my life and it really makes a lot of sense. I remember having a problem in high school with cheerleading and i was talking to my mom and dad about it and i remember my dad telling me to go up to the girl and i was have the problem with and tell her whats up! My mom on the other hand did not think that type of action was necessary. This shows how mails think and how they would handle stuff... even though at the same time i did kind of want to take my dads options. I have really enjoyed listening to a lot of the things that we have talked about recently in class. I feel like they are relating to me a lot.

non-verbal communication

2009-03-11T18:06:00.000-07:00

I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over 6 months. He is my first boyfriend and I am definitely learning about all aspects of communication in our relationship. I am often the one upset or angry, so most of the time I will use body language and non-verbal communication. I am slowly learning that I need to be verbal with him if I want to get any feelings across. I will sit next to him and not talk for an hour, not talk back to his conversation, and he will STILL not know that I am mad about something. It really drives me crazy and I could relate well with the class discusion. We talked about how the message sent is often not the message recieved and this happens at least once a week with my boyfriend and I. The discusion really made me think about different ways to communicate with him about my anger and it will take away some stress. When I sit and wait for a response or expect him to know why I'm mad and he doesn't, it makes the situation worse because I don't get the reaction that I want. It is also important to remember that guys and girls communicate differently and my boyfriend and I are still learning about eachother's reactions.

communication

2009-03-10T21:10:00.001-07:00

Todays topic I believe was accurate. Whenever I talk to my boyfriend about problems I have he always goes straight for the solution. Instead of just listening to me, he always tries to fix my problems which alot of the times can't be fixed. Sometimes I do wish he could learn to just listen to me and try not to one up me on my problem.

Communication

2009-03-10T20:17:00.000-07:00

I loved the topic of class today! I never really thought about how girls and guys communicate differently, but after learning about it in class, I can definitely relate situations in my life to it. For example, I always go to my dad when I have a problem because I know he will tell me exactly what to do and get straight to the point. If I were to go to my mom, she would drag the situation on and discuss all the unnecessary aspects of my problem. I will without doubt keep these communication differences in mind in future conversations.

Communication

2009-03-10T19:41:00.000-07:00

I thought it was very interesting when we were discussing communication in class today. I knew about non-verbal communication but I never really thought about it. When my Dad comes back from work, you can clearly tell whether or not he had a bad day. If he did, he won't say very much, and like we said in class he even will walk differently. I also thought it was neat learning about how girls and guys communicate in different ways. Girls really do tend to take the more "emotional" approach and with guys its more problem and solution. Learning about communication is going to really help me with my family interview and it will also help to explain a lot of the interactions that are taking place within the family.

Class topics

2009-03-10T19:10:00.000-07:00

I am really enjoying going to class these last couple of weeks. I thought the mate selection topic was very interesting. I didn't realize that people play so many games, and it takes a lot of hard work to find the perfect mate. I really think this class is going to help me in the future when I decide who I want to date!

Eating at the dinner table.

2009-03-10T09:43:00.000-07:00

I was looking around on the internet and found an article that I found interesting. It was about positive ways to raise your children. There were suggestions such as (1) being a parent first, before other demanding tasks, (2)setting good examples (3)learn to listen to your children, and others. The one that I thought was very interesting was to make a big deal about eating together as a family. When I was growing up, the only time we ever ate at the table was during Thanksgiving. We didn’t even eat at the table for other holidays, such as Christmas. It told how it not only is a place for socializing and finding out what’s going on in everyone’s life, but to pass on values and behaviors. I never really thought about how important it was because I never did it. I can see how it can be very important though. Does anyone else wonder if it really matters or not? Since I never really ate with my family, I have no idea how it feels to be on the other side of it.

http://www.bu.edu/sed/caec/files/10tips.htm

Selecting a Mate

2009-03-05T11:22:00.001-08:00

I thought our class discussion on selecting was very interesting and probably important and eye opening to many in the class. I found talking about engagment the most interesting to me. I always thought it was about getting prepared for marrage and realize now it is not. I guess in a way it is but the main reason behind it is not get to know eachother better on a different level then what you were at. I assumed they knew eachother that well before the got engaged but apparently not. Another aspect of the lecture i found interesting was the part when we talked about the games. I never thought about the 'little' games everyone plays could be destructive to a relationship. The games can have positive outcomes such as getting to eahother better. I feel like I don't usually do the whole playing games. Yet i will admit I do play the "I don't care" game... i never thought of this as a game but now that it was explained to us i understand it now.

Nothing really to do with the topic

2009-03-05T10:33:00.000-08:00

So I couldn't really think of anything to write about so I'm going to write about this....

Back in sixth grade (2001-2002) my best friend was kidnapped and murdered. They never caught the guy and they thought that he might have been involved in 3 other murders of 11 year olds. Time has gone on and they still haven't captured him. The other night I was watching America's Most Wanted and they ran her story again except this time it was different. Actress Pauley Perrette from NCIS has become personally involved in the case. Her family lives in a neighboring town and when she heard about the story it hit her hard. She has put up a huge reward and is doing all she can to aid the investigation.....

this is the link for the youtube clip of the show.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oDshDS1E8bo

Dating

2009-03-05T10:32:00.000-08:00

I think that that lectures in class are getting more and more interesting. I really like that topics and find that I can relate to them as most of my classmates I am assuming. I am looking forward to the talk on marriage. Which I think is today?

Cohabitation

2009-03-05T08:05:00.000-08:00

When we learned about cohabitation in the section of dating, it was very intriguing and I found out a lot that I didn't know about. I didn't know there were so many different kinds of cohabitation. I think that now in this century more and more people are typically in the Linus blanket category and the Testing Category. Typically today couples can be so dependent on one another that they would rather be with someone then be alone, because they want the feelings of intimacy, belonging, love, etc. so they will do just about anything to have a relationship even if that means changing themselves or their lives just so they have someone to love. So many people today want a realtionship to either satisfy them emotionally, sexually, financially, etc. they don't realize sometimes how the other person feels or other people involved feelings about the relationship. As for the testing category lots of people are involved in this category today, especially those in their twenties and early thirties. Couples in this cateogry want to live together to see if marriage is right for them, or just right for each other and they can live with the other person and deal with their faults, strengths, weaknessess, etc. One big part of the puzzle is to see if they can see themselves in the others family and deal with all that goes with it. If they can get through the hard times and still be with them in the end, then they can be with them. I think another is they choose those who are most like their mother/father and feel safe and loved. I myself have not cohabitated and don' really plan on it, for one I don't think it is right before marriage and two because my parents don't really like the idea, and they mean a lot to me. I feel that you can spend just as much time together with the person as you would living with them to find out all of this stuff. I plan on making sure they are the person that is not only right for me, but that my family excepts and likes them, because if not then it won't happen.

Dating and Marriage

2009-03-04T19:44:00.000-08:00

In class I found the past few lectures that we have had are really interesting. Dating and marriage is something that girls (or at least from what I know) can never learn to much about. I watch the Bachelor and when we started talking about dating, it was the first thing that popped into my mind. Here is a man trying to choose his future wife by dating them and finding out more about them. However the Bachelor does have a very different twist than real life does. Usually girls or guys don't have twenty or more guys or girls trying to get the same husband or wife. But there are so many people that I know who watch the show and it tells me that humans can never learn to much about relationships. In my life right now I'm single and if I do start dating it would most likely be for marriage or something that would last. As I get older, its something that I'm lookin for right now and when the time is right the right someone will be in my life.

Cohabitation

2009-03-04T19:00:00.000-08:00

I believe that cohabitation is a very smart idea. It gives you more of a trial bases rather than jumping straight into marriage. I honestly believe that cohabitation can help decrease divorce rates. If you learn that you cant stand the person just cohabitating, then you know that the idea of marriage will never work out. Along with cohabitating, it opens up more communication between people. There is more of an opportunity and you might get a change to discuss things that you may not have even thought of. Cohabitation is a good try out on a relationship.

Dating and Mate selection

2009-03-04T18:59:00.000-08:00

I feel these last few chapters on being single and dating and mate selection have been the most interesting so far. They are completely relatable to probably every person in the class. I also watch the Bachelor and it's interesting to see how dating has really evolved in our society. Now things like online dating and shows like the bachelor are not unconventional ways of meeting people. Also, it's interesting the change people go through while dating. I know even just applying it to my own relationship it starts off very casual and then eventually your three years down the road talking about the future.

Dating

2009-03-04T09:00:00.000-08:00

I have found the past couple of lectures to be very interesting. Most people in class can relate to these topics. I find the topics about dating and getting married interesting because in a couple of years I will be at an age to get married. We are at a age were most people start to date and try to find their soul mate. Everytime we look for our soul mate, we go through a process of male selection. We have to decide what we like and dislike in a male. Slowly we weed out the good from the bad.

Mate Selection

2009-03-03T21:08:00.000-08:00

It is so funny that we are talking about mate selection right now because I am also an avid viewer of The Bachelor. Everything that was said in class today I related to The Bachelor. Many of the girls on the show played games with Jason both constructive and destructive. It is also interesting to see how once there are fewer girls, the games kind of disappear and they start focusing on how they would function as a couple and they become much more intimate. I am looking forward to learning more about this subject area so I can relate the information to my own life.